I am excited to join American Mama in sharing my story of how motherhood is made with love.
I am not a perfect mother nor do I ever pretend to be. My version of motherhood is slap dash, loving, sloppy, happy, and made with love. I don’t always have my act together and that’s okay. In this day and age of Pinterest and Facebook you may see other people’s photos and wonder how it is that they can possibly have it all together when you’re barely making it through the day. Here’s a secret: they don’t. Their imperfections may be different from yours and mine but they are still imperfect just like you and me.
Even though I’m imperfect my kids are happy, funny, cool little people and I am privileged that they’re mine. They make me smile every day and I can only hope that I do the same for them.
Motherhood hasn’t always been an easy road. A fulfilling one, yes. Easy, no. When my oldest son was a year old I became a single mother. This was not my idea of how I was going to raise my child(ren) when I had them but I had to find a way. I’ve stumbled some and made mistakes. There was a period where my son and I didn’t have a permanent home but I did what I could. We lived with a friend of mine for a few months and then stayed with my mother for another few months until we finally found a place of our own. I’m not going to sugarcoat things, it was hard, but we did it. We did it with determination and love.
I had a good example for my journey as a single mother. My own mother. She was young when she had me, many would say too young, but in order to make a good life for herself and her child she put herself through college on her own all while raising a small child. Even though she wasn’t perfect either and had a lot on her plate at a young age I like to think that she did a pretty good job. With a lot of hard work she made a good life for us.
When my husband and I decided to add a second child to our family we knew that it would an interesting and sometimes challenging family dynamic; parenting two children who are ten years and eleven months apart. We had a toddler and a teenager at the same time so we had to parent through these two challenging stages of childhood/adolescence at the same time. Even though there are things I could have done better and things I shouldn’t have said, my boys still love me and each other anyway.
Like my mother and my grandmother before me, I may not perfect but I am a good mom with happy kids who think that I’m pretty darned cool most of the time. In the end that’s all that matters. Accept your flaws, embrace your imperfections, and stop trying to be a Pinterest mother. Be you, be awesome. Your kids love you more than anyone else in the world, warts and all.
Thank you to gDiapers for encouraging mothers to get the message out that motherhood isn’t always perfect but it is always made with love. Join gDiapers on Instagram for their gift chain to give a handmade gift that is #madewithlove to another amazing mom or dad and be sure to keep your ears open for an upcoming Twitter chat (TBD) about how motherhood is #madewithlove for a chance to win great prizes from gDiapers.