Nope, I’m not a mom blogger who tries to put up some facade about being a perfect parent. In this day and age of Facebook, mom blogs, and Pinterest it sometimes feels like everyone else has their stuff together. The truth is that they probably don’t either.
Motherhood isn’t a competition and I’m not interested in playing that game. My children and I don’t make fantastic crafts, I don’t over-schedule my calendar with the kids’ activities, my house isn’t spotless, I might raise my voice a little too high on occasion, I lose my temper once in a while, and I don’t make adorable bento box lunches every day (or any day, for that matter). I’m tired, I don’t shower until well into the afternoon, my three-year-old isn’t wearing pants, and you know what? I’m not going to apologize for it.
It took me a long time to figure out that I’m not the only mom with a little too much on my plate. When I was a mom working outside of the home I used to think that stay-at-home moms had time to keep the house neat at all times, bring the kids to the children’s museum every week, and make cute snacks. My excuse back then was that I worked full-time and was a single mom and that’s why I didn’t always have it all together. Now I’m laughing at the old me.
I don’t have any photos from the worst days because that’s not when you break out the camera but…
This is my truth:
This is how our basement usually looks because it’s easy to shut the door and forget about it.
Yes, my child does really wear clothes.
Our living room currently has shoes, a basket of diapers that need to be folded, books that my toddler brought upstairs and left everywhere, and toys that need to be put back in their basket.
Let’s make a pact, ladies. A pact to stop it. Stop comparing yourself to other people’s highlight reels and remember that you are only seeing what they want you to see. A good day, photos of happy kids before their afternoon meltdown, an accidentally gorgeous recipe, and cropped photos. Just like you and me.
We are great moms with happy kids and happiness is often messy.