Yes, I’m a grown woman and I still have imaginary friends. Forty-five of them to be exact. No, I don’t have multiple personalities and I don’t live in some fantasy dream land. I am the member of an online mom group and have been for almost fifteen years now. From time to time we have affectionately called each other imaginary friends.
We have been through pregnancies, births, marriages, divorces, second marriages, grandchildren (yes, grandchildren!), and now we have sadly experienced the death of a spouse.
This year marks the year that most of our kiddos started high school while four of them, including mine, started tenth grade yet we’re still together sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly. These women know more about me than anyone else on the planet, including my husband since I’ve known these ladies quite a bit longer.
I have met several of the women from my birth club, but many I have not and I still trust them with just about every detail of my life. Whether I need to vent, get advice, or need a shoulder to cry on. If any of us need anything the group is right there without having to ask.
Oh sure, over the years we’ve had our fair share of drama. Oh boy, have we! You put a bunch of women together in one place and the fur is bound to fly at least once in awhile. Due to the Internet being the fickle creature that it is we’ve been forced to find a new home more than once. With each move we’ve lost a few members. It has turned out to be a good thing for the most part because now the members of the group who seemed to cause the most amount of drama are gone.
Aside from the support and the laughs, I love that through this group I am able to be friendly with women that would probably never be my friends in real life because at first glance some of us just don’t have anything in common. We have different interests, different political leanings, different religious beliefs, different parenting philosophies, different everything. Yet here we are, fifteen years and counting and I am happy to be able to call each and every one of them a friend.
I wrote about the power of an online birth club several months ago and if you’re pregnant or a new mom this can be an indispensable resource that may turn into long-term friendships.
Are you or were you a member of an online birth club? Did you find it supportive or to be filled with drama?
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