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Are You Living with a Child with ADHD? You’re Not Alone

by Regan

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When I started this blog I was planning on writing a lot more about our journey with my thirteen-year-old son Red’s ADHD. It turns out that I have barely written about it at all because I didn’t want to come off like I’m complaining. ADHD can be a very frustrating affliction. It touches so many of us but it’s sometimes hard to write about or talk about with others which can leave families touched by ADHD feeling somewhat alienated.

One of the most frustrating things about this disorder is that so many people don’t think it’s real or is a parenting issue. It can sometimes feel like friends, coworkers, family members, even teachers are looking down on you for not parenting your child well enough, for medicating them, etc.

The fact is, when you live with ADHD 24/7 you know that it is very real and all you want is to help your child succeed in school, at home, and in life. A great support system and reliable information like that found on Lifescript.com is key to managing your child’s ADHD.

There are several different types and symptoms of ADHD: Inattentive, Hyperactive, Impulsive, and Combined. My son has the combined type of ADHD but is more of the impulsive type as he gets older. He was diagnosed in the middle of first grade at six years old but honestly, I think I knew before then.

It isn’t that your child doesn’t want to follow directions, pay attention to what needs to be done, complete a task, or not fidget in public. It’s that they can’t. That is the difference between ADHD in children and just being a normal kid.

The ADHD child is generally quite intelligent but has a hard time concentrating on subjects that don’t interest them, they are often unable to read social cues, are often emotionally younger than their same-age peers, have a hard time discerning other people’s emotions or intentions, they can be disorganized and /or lose things, may speak out of turn, not have a filter when speaking, and they also sometimes have tics. As I mentioned, my son is the combined type so these are all traits that he has.

While parenting him has been a challenge at times, he is a smart, funny, sweet, sensitive kid. He is not the “problem child” that some people may think of when they think of ADHD but these things contribute to academic and social issues. Some things that have helped us are:

  • Being involved in school and getting him on an IEP and then stepped down to a 504
  • A good therapist for him to talk to
  • Having his medication managed by a psychiatrist instead of a pediatrician
  • Sticking to a schedule as much as possible and giving him prompts

Red is now thirteen and teens with ADHD can require a different kind of support as they are also dealing with all of the other things that come with becoming a teenager. He will be a Freshman in high school this Fall and I do worry a bit about how he will handle it. He has always been a good student, but he does struggle a bit socially sometimes. We will be navigating this new stage of his journey carefully. We will be watching for any bumps in the road and deal with them immediately either with the school, his therapist, or his psychiatrist. I don’t know what the next four years will bring but I hope that they will be good, exciting things for him!

One encouraging thing that I have been reading lately is that 50% of teens may be able to be weaned off of medications and respond well to behavioral and other Alternative Therapies for ADHD. I have heard of fish oil and certain diets helping children with ADHD but Lifescript has a section on their website about some alternative treatments such as vitamins and supplements, even massage that can potentially help as well. This is something that I will surely be exploring further as he becomes more and more aware of his actions and is able to control them even more. I can already see a change in how he is managing his ADHD. In this past year he has improved in several areas that had always been difficult for him.

When it comes to having your child diagnosed and treated for ADHD, follow your gut. You know your child better than anyone.

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8 comments

Amber June 22, 2013 - 2:21 pm

Sounds like you are a great Mom! You’re kids are very lucky! Thanks for sharing and I’m sure this will be very helpful to others.

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Regan June 25, 2013 - 3:23 pm

Thank you. It isn’t always easy but it’s not always negative either. ADHD has its positive attributes as well. We hear more about the hyperactivity and poor school performance but when an ADHD kid is interested in something they focus all of their energy into it so finding positive interests for the ADHD kid is key 🙂

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Alicia Owen June 21, 2013 - 6:27 pm

ADHD can be a very touchy subject. I feel like it is over-diagnosed a lot as well, which obviously hurts the kids who really DO have it when they’re being treated like everyone else, but, I’m just guessing since I don’t have personal experience with this as a parent, they really need special or different kind of guidance than other children without it.

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Regan June 25, 2013 - 3:21 pm

As with anything there are doctors who may not be above board but the evaluation is actually pretty extensive. If it is over-diagnosed then someone isn’t doing their job properly and parents and teachers aren’t being honest on their questionnaires.

On the other hand I have seen kids who clearly have ADHD (you can spot it a mile away when you live with it 24/7) but their parents are turning a blind eye to it. I don’t think it should be a touchy subject at all because that only does those with it and their families a disservice because it means that kids aren’t getting treated because of the stigma attached. No other medical issue or learning disability is treated this way

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Suzi Satterfield June 21, 2013 - 5:36 pm

On one hand… as Shannon mentioned, ADHD can be over-diagnosed. On the other… I fought an ADHD diagnosis for my son. He did horribly on medication; I was convinced that it was the teacher who was the problem. He went back home to Florida and saw our regular doctor. He was again diagnosed as ADHD. This time, he got the right medical treatment and had a complete turn around. He went from practically failing every class and being in trouble to being a solid honor roll student.

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Regan June 25, 2013 - 3:25 pm

It’s amazing what can happen with the proper treatment. It took us a while to find the right med for him but when we did it was like night and day. I also think taking his care out of the hands of the pediatrician and bringing him to a psychiatrist to oversee his medication was the best thing we ever did

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Shannon Stubbs June 21, 2013 - 1:46 pm

Back when I was a teacher, there was a kindergarten teacher who pushed and pushed for ADHD diagnoses. Well over half of her class was on meds for it which I found frustrating. Before they were diagnosed with it, I knew these kids and they were just that, kids. They didn’t need to be on meds, she just wanted a very mellow class. I found it frustrating because it took away from the kids that really did have it.

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Maegan L. June 21, 2013 - 1:06 pm

Thank you for sharing some of your story.

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