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The Single Mom Bashing Continues. Now They’re Responsible for the Decline in Newpaper Sales?

by Regan
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Single Mothers are to Blame for the Decline in Newspaper Sales? Give Me a BreakThis morning I read one of the most offensive things I’ve read in a long time. Maybe ever. I’m not one to get offended easily since I tend to see two sides of most situations even if I don’t agree, so for me to be offended is kind of a big deal. To me, anyway.

There is a buffoon man from my home state who gets to spew whatever nonsense he feels like as the managing editor of a local paper called The Journal Enquirer. He claims that single mothers are to blame for the decline in newspaper sales. This in and of itself is a head scratcher as to how one gets to that logic, but his reasoning is what’s offensive. As a woman and a former single mom, I am offended. 

Even in a supposedly prosperous and well-educated state like Connecticut, how strong can demand for those things be now that half the children are being raised without two parents at home and thus acquiring developmental handicaps; 70 percent of community college and state university freshmen have not mastered what used to be considered basic high school skills; poverty has risen steadily even as government appropriations in the name of remediating poverty have risen steadily; and democracy has sunk so much that half the eligible population isn’t voting in presidential elections, 65 percent isn’t voting in state elections, and 85 percent isn’t voting in municipal elections?

First of all, excuse me? My oldest son has never had a “developmental handicap” due to his being raised by a single mother for the first 7+ years of his life. He has always been well-rounded, sweet, personable, got good grades, and tested highly on aptitude and IQ tests required for his PPT meetings in relation to his ADHD. 

I will give him one thing: poverty is high among single parents, especially in states with ridiculously high costs of living (like Connecticut). Yes. But that isn’t always the case and just because someone is poor doesn’t mean that they’re bad parents, illiterate, unaware of world events, and don’t vote.

Let’s see how many more stereotypes this guy can pull out of his hat, shall we?

Indeed, newspapers still can sell themselves to traditional households — two-parent families involved with their children, schools, churches, sports, civic groups, and such. But newspapers cannot sell themselves to households headed by single women who have several children by different fathers, survive on welfare stipends, can hardly speak or read English, move every few months to cheat their landlords, barely know what town they’re living in, and couldn’t afford a newspaper subscription even if they could read. And such households constitute a rising share of the population.

Is he really trying to say that single mothers aren’t involved with their children? That’s a crock of bull if I’ve ever heard one. In fact, I was thinking just last night about how my relationship with Red was when it was just he and I and funny enough was going to write about it today. Then I read this drivel.

Since my son has ADHD I was very involved in his school to make sure that he didn’t fall through the cracks. It was what needed to be done for my child, so I did it. No, I am not involved in church but that is my personal choice. One has nothing to do with the other at all. It just means that either you’re (actively) religious or you’re not. Period. 

I don’t know about you, but most of the single mothers that I know don’t have children fathered by multiple men. Most of them are women, like me, who are intelligent women who happened to be in a relationship with the wrong man. Had a child or more, it didn’t work out, they moved on. The end. 

Yes, there are single mothers who fit the stereotypes that this man is spewing, but they aren’t the norm. All of the single and formerly single moms that I know are more like me. I had a professional career in the health insurance industry before the birth of my last baby. I have never been on welfare, even when I was laid off and dead broke. I speak English fluently and very well, thank you. I have always been a responsible renter and have never skipped out on my rent. And even at my poorest I’m pretty sure I could plunk down the money for a newspaper if I chose to. 

But guess what? I don’t need to buy a newspaper. I get all of the news that I want (and some that I don’t) with a quick click of a button. I can read what I want, when I want for free. Even now that I’m married and a “traditional family”.

Not only are this individual’s comments incredibly offensive, they are not based on any kind of fact whatsoever. He is just spewing garbage for the sake of causing a stir and no other reason. The two biggest questions I have here are this: 1) Why aren’t single fathers included? and 2) Wouldn’t single parents be most apt to buy the newspaper, if even only on Sunday for coupons?

I’m heartsick and disgusted that single mothers are still treated like pariahs by some (look at my illiterate self using big words!) when they should be applauded for doing one of the hardest jobs a woman could do.

Are you or do you know a single mom? What do you think of this “gentleman’s” comments?

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Suzi Satterfield October 7, 2013 - 4:27 pm

Ugh, what a jerk. I guess it was rather telling when I read the d-bag’s job description as “mangling editor” at first glance. I’ve been a single mom. I’ve been a working mom. I’ve been a stay at home mom. I’ve NEVER been on welfare. Ever. I don’t get the newspaper because I have no interest in increasing paper waste. Jerk. If I did get that paper, I’d be cancelling the subscription instantly… and I’d be encouraging every other subscriber to drop their scrip, too. I wonder how many people are being transferred to the newspaper’s retention department and are saying that they are discontinuing their subscription because of the Mangling Editor?

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Heather Johnson October 7, 2013 - 6:47 pm

My husband and I, who are married and fit into some traditional stereotypes, do not subscribe to newspapers. I would even argue that new media — the same new media that my husband works for — is responsible for the decline of traditional newspaper. What a jerk!

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Robin Wilson October 7, 2013 - 8:50 pm

I think you made a mistake. You forgot to take the strikethrough off “buffoon” and delete “man”!

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Regan October 7, 2013 - 10:24 pm

Haha! Touche’

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Gianna October 7, 2013 - 9:43 pm

I think it’s a cross between this thing called the internet and people not wanting to read all the bad news constantly. Depending on what newspaper you read he could have even blamed it on ‘global warming’. LOL

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Samantha G October 7, 2013 - 10:47 pm

I think he is a waste of good air. I have found that no matter what anyone does you will find those who hate you and degrade you for it. I am a military wife so I single parent every other year for a year or more. I am not a single parent. Thank God. I have often thought of how hard my job is and yet I know someone is sending a paycheck home every two weeks so I do not have to worry about that end. I am amazed by the single mothers out there and if I ever feel like I am not getting sleep I just have to look at some of my friends working my old medical job and raising children on their own. They are amazing woman and fully vested into their child’s growth. It does not matter if a child is being raised by ten people or one as long as that child is loved and cared for the outcome will be the same. I think mothers all around should write him a nice letter about what his words are good for (kindling).

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Regan October 8, 2013 - 7:48 am

I have the utmost respect for the military moms (and dads whose wives serve). While not technically a single parent, a lot of military spouses are doing it alone at least for a little while with the addition of missing someone.

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Jennifer P October 7, 2013 - 10:50 pm

I am not a single mom, something I think of as being one of the hardest jobs in the universe, but I am a single woman, and one on welfare at that [disability in this case]. I too had a professional career, have excellent english languahe skills, and while I may now be “poor”, I can afford to buy a newspaper should I want one. Like you I prefer to get my news online, where it is not only free, but I can find unbiased news sources from anywhere around the world. I am not forced to limit myself to whatever horrible, local rag is available.

Reading the excepts you posted I was highly offended, not just on behalf of single women, but folks on welfare, and quite frankly on behalf of ALL women. Some of the most illiterate people I’ve met happen to be MEN, not women. This guy is spouting a whole bunch of unsubstantiated garbage. Single moms are not responsible for what ails this country any more than they are responsible for the decline of newspaper sales. Perhaps if we didn’t have to read this kind of lousy reporting and editorializing we would buy more newspapers.

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Regan October 7, 2013 - 11:22 pm

Excellent points. People’s intelligence can’t be measured by their station in life since no one looking in can possibly know someone’s circumstances. I can’t stand generalizations and stereotypes for anyone.

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