I am pretty sure that my son has cornered the market on stubbornness. He has a double whammy from both sides of his gene pool so when The Husband and I seem surprised by it, but who are we kidding? Not only that, he is high needs. All of these traits together have led to a battle of wills and The Husband and I have all but conceded long ago.
Related: My life with a high needs toddler
Parenting books don’t tell you about potty training stubborn children that just don’t want to use the toilet. That’s because the fact of the matter is, if your child doesn’t want to use the toilet then he won’t. I know that it sounds simplistic but we have tried everything from high praise to bribery and everything in between. No go.
Finally, after over a week of being pretty much accident-free in underwear I am ready to finally say that Dub is day trained at four years and two months old. Hallelujiah! I know, I also thought he was going to graduate high school in diapers. But what I want you to know if you also have an older child who just won’t use the toilet, it will happen. It can be done.
We have been working with him on this for over a year now. He didn’t have a physical reason that he couldn’t use the toilet. He was actually quite good at using the toilet . . . as long as he was naked from the waist down. Any time we put training pants or underwear on him he used them as a diaper. Keeping him naked at home is fine but I’m pretty sure the normals at Tarjay would throw me some serious shade if I walked in with my half naked son playing with his doodle. If you have a son then you know what I’m talking about.
Related: Potty training readiness cues
I wish I had some great pearl of wisdom for you if this is also your life. My only advice is this: have a martini, be patient, encourage him or her without getting frustrated (easier said than done, girlfriend. I know.), have both a potty chair and a toilet ring on hand since your child will probably prefer one over the other (both of mine preferred the ring), and just know that they will not go to Kindergarten in diapers. It will happen, mama. It will.
Have another martini. You deserve it.